Mother and Wife quarrels are very common from the ancient times. Jealousy, fights for household works and avoiding each other are the common symptoms of every ‘in-law’ quarrel. But, the common question arises in every husband’s mind – How to tackle their fights? Today, you can solve the problems in their relationships easily by following the advices given in this article. Husband should remember that the issues cannot be solved without his efforts so he has to think twice before taking any step towards both mother and wife.
Married life is an examination like schools for every couple, but difference arises between school and real life. In schools, we get syllabus while no syllabus is provided in real life to prepare for exams. So, every married person has to be prepared at every moment by simply following some common rules to pass in every examination of married life. Many a times a situation takes place for husbands to choose any one person from mother and wife, but generally every husband approaches to escape the matter which is not the exact solution of the problem. Husband and wife together have to make efforts to bind the whole family with love and affection. Take a look at simple steps to fill the colorless life with the colors of respect and devotion.
What are the responsibilities of Wives and Mother-in-laws?
A better communication will lead both the ladies to a very strong relationship. The two things needed to make this relationship stronger are respect and politeness. Sometimes, it happens that daughter-in-law may commit mistake, but at that time the duty of mother-in-law is to clarify her mistake politely instead of shouting at her. Daughter-in-law should treat her as a real mother and approach in the same way as she does with her own mother. Daughter-in-law should not argue with her mother-in-law when she scolds her as she has to realize the fact that argument leads to big quarrels, so it is better to be mum. However, she has to remain quite if she has committed the mistake in real. Both the ladies should share their emotions and gossips with each other like real mothers and daughters do as it boosts good partnership and understanding between them.
Wives should remember:
Wives should not forget the fact that their husband is, first of all, the son of his mother. His mother is the first person who brought him in this world and then she is the one who permitted his better-half to enter in life. Wives should remember that their place is incomparable with their mother-in-laws in husbands’ life. So, it is better for them to respect the opinions of their mother-in-laws and show the love and kindness for them. Wives should always take care of their husbands as it affects a lot to the attitude of the in-laws. If wives would show concern and worry for their husbands, then their mother-in-law would be impressed and her tension about her son will reduce. Daughter-in-law should take opinions from mother-in-law before taking any big decision, which will show that she respects the experience of in-law’s life and believe in her.
Steps for Mother-in-laws:
Mother-in-law should give the same respect that she expects from her daughter-in-law. Mother-in-law should keep this in mind that now, his son is not alone as he also has a responsibility of his wife and she has to share the concern and love of son with her daughter-in-law. Mothers should throw out the misunderstanding from their mind that their daughter-in-laws have snatched away their sons from them. Mothers should stop whispering the daily activities of her daughter-in-laws to her son, which may create a mess in their married life. They should also stop torturing and criticizing their daughter-in-laws every moment. Mother-in-laws should always be thankful to their daughter-in-laws for taking care of their family instead of shouting and dominating them.
The root of the fight between most of the wives and mothers is the household work. In this lavish world, it is necessary that both husband and wife should be professional to fulfill the needs of the family. But, on the other hand mother-in-law expects that her daughter-in-law should handle all the household duties simultaneously with professional activities, which is definitely difficult for her. So, it is advisable for both of them to divide all the responsibilities equally in order to solve the problem.
How gentleman can be a great Son as well as Husband?
Husband should tackle the fights of wife and mother very trickily without taking the side of any one from both the ladies. He should speak to both of them and give equal importance to them. Some of the simple steps to live a peaceful life are as follows:
Communicate with mother:
Husband should not stop talking with his mother after the entrance of his wife in the life. Or else, she feels that her son is snatched away by her daughter-in-law. Husband should provide equal attention to both wife and mother. Husband should not fight with mother and wife after hearing from others and should trust both of them. Husbands should divide the time span so that he may pay attention to both of them.
Show concern for wife:
A man should listen not only to the mother, but also to the wife. Husband should first listen to the problem of mother and wife then he should try to correct the problem by explaining to the responsible person from them. Many husbands get frustrated from the regular fights of wife and mother because of which he shouts at wife and blames her for the same. He should give equal importance to the opinions of a wife instead of sticking to mother every time. Man should always remember the vows that he took during marriage, which will build a strong relationship between both of them.
Husband should spend some time with his wife separately and express his trust and love for her. If husband feels that this time his wife has taken a wrong step, then he should try to explain her politely instead of shouting. A husband should never forget that his wife has left her real home, friends, family, etc. only for him so he should respect her feelings and attachment for him.
Devote time for mother and wife separately:
A man should give some leisure to both wife and mother separately. Husband should divide the time for both in such a way that one feel secure. Man should share his experiences with his mother like he did before marriage and never commit a mistake to talk about the relationship of wife and mother. Instead of talking about their relations, man should take advice from his mother about how to make their understanding and relationship stronger?
When it is turn of wife, man should always remember that if he will treat her with true love and emotions then she too will relax and understand him. He should take her to dinner at restaurants and arrange some outing at garden or at any other peaceful and private place. He should plan her future with her and give some advices for making his mother happy instead of talking about the fights. He should arrange some holiday trip or a small picnic for the whole family, which will bring his mother and wife closer gradually.
Praise both of them:
Man should praise the kitchen work of the one who cooked the meal separately. He should not make a mistake of praising one in front of the other rather he should admire them separately. Admiration will boost the enthusiasm of both the ladies to serve the delicious meal to their son and it will the automatically solve the kitchen war between them. Husband should also teach both to appreciate each other’s work, which will diminish the war and carry the strong bonding between them.
Man should always remember that his efforts can create the miracles to bring the wife and mother closer. So, he should stop arguing and escaping from their war and make efforts with the correct approach to handle both of them.